Welcome to the season finale of Surviving and Thriving: The Breaking Badass Podcast. In this powerful and emotional episode, I, your host Bridget, am taking a deep breath and opening up about a chapter of my life that has shaped who I am today. This is my story of enduring and escaping domestic violence—a journey marked by pain, fear, and ultimately, resilience and freedom.

The Darkness of Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is a pervasive issue that often goes unnoticed until it’s too late. For years, I found myself trapped in a cycle of abuse that was as psychological and emotional as it was physical. My abuser used manipulation, fear, and control tactics that chipped away at my sense of self, making it nearly impossible to see a way out. This episode is not just a recounting of those dark days but a testament to the strength it takes to survive and the courage required to leave.

The Struggle for Protection

One of the most harrowing parts of my journey was obtaining a domestic violence protective order. The process was emotionally taxing and fraught with challenges. Despite the clear and present danger, the legal system often feels slow and unresponsive, leaving victims vulnerable. I faced a seemingly endless series of obstacles just to secure the protection that I desperately needed. This experience is not unique—many survivors struggle to obtain the legal protection they deserve, and it’s a topic that needs more attention and reform.

The Emotional Toll of Domestic Violence

The emotional toll of living with an abuser is profound. Every day is a battle with fear, self-doubt, and the overwhelming sense of being trapped. My abuser’s control was so complete that I often questioned my own reality. This is the insidious nature of domestic violence—it doesn’t just hurt the body; it destroys the spirit. My journey to freedom was as much about rebuilding my sense of self as it was about escaping physical harm.

The Underreported Issue of Marital Rape

A particularly painful aspect of my experience, and one that is sadly underreported, is marital rape. This form of sexual violence within marriage is often overlooked or dismissed, but it is a serious and traumatic violation. The complexities surrounding mutual retaliatory restraining orders further complicate the pursuit of justice, as these orders can be misused to discredit victims or muddy the legal waters.

The Importance of Support Systems

Throughout my journey, one thing became abundantly clear: support systems are crucial. Whether it’s friends, family, or organizations dedicated to helping survivors, these networks can be lifesaving. I wouldn’t have made it through without the support of those who believed in me and provided the help I needed, even when I was too scared to ask for it.

A Message of Hope and Solidarity

As I conclude this season, I want to leave you with a message of hope and solidarity. No matter how dark your situation may seem, you are not alone. There are people and resources out there ready to support you. It takes immense courage to seek help, but it is a step worth taking. For anyone listening who is experiencing domestic violence, know that your life is valuable, and your safety is paramount.

Looking Ahead to Season Two

This season has been an incredible journey, filled with stories of strength, survival, and empowerment. As we look forward to season two, I promise to continue sharing stories that inspire and uplift. There is so much more to explore, and together, we will keep breaking badass, one story at a time.

For those who need assistance, please refer to the resources available in the show notes, including the National Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/. Remember, surviving is just the beginning—let’s thrive together.

Stay tuned for season two, and until then, keep thriving, because you are stronger than you know.